In this week’s show, I will be discussing the bullying epidemic in our society.
First, I will explain that those who bully were bullied as children. Because the bullied child is too frightened to share his/her scared, weak, helpless and angry feelings with his abuser, the pain gets shoved under the emotional rug. But since these feelings can’t be kept down forever, the bullied child ends up releasing his/her pain by depositing it onto others. Bullied children dump their pent up pain on weaker siblings or schoolmates. And, as adults, these same victims dump their pain onto their helpless children or spouses.
I also will reveal the link between marital distress and bullying, explaining that many parents unite against the enemy and gang up on their children in an unconscious attempt to solidify a marital bond that’s fraying.
The ultimate solution to end the epidemic of bullying is for all of us to have the strength to take ownership of our feelings of weakness, hurt, sadness and anger, and work them through, rather than dump our pain onto others.
Joining me this week will be mental health counselor and clinical hypnotherapist, Jef Gazley, LMFT, to discuss the link between family dysfunction and bullying.
About Jef Gazley, LMFT
Jef Gazley, M.S., LMFT, LPC, LISAC, DCC has practiced hypnosis and counseling since 1974 and is the owner operator of asktheinternettherapist.com since 1998. He is the author of thirteen mental health educational and self-help DVDs, numerous hypnosis scripts available on CDs, and MP3 format, and has written a book on Distance Counseling and another book on Tri-Brain Trauma Therapy, which is a theory he has developed. Jef is State Licensed in General Counseling LPC, Marriage/Family MFT, and Substance Abuse in Arizona.
He is also a certified hypnotherapist. He is a member in good standing with ASCH, the American Society of Clinical Hypnosis, the International Society of Hypnosis, the National Board for Certified Clinical Hypnotherapists, the American Psychotherapy and Medical Hypnosis Association, and is a trained Ericksonian hypnotherapist.
Jef is dedicated to guiding individuals to achieving a life long commitment to mental health and relationship mastery. In his private practice in Scottsdale, Arizona, Jef specializes in ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder), love addiction, hypnotherapy, dysfunctional families, co-dependency, trauma, and gay and lesbian issues. He is a trained counselor in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), NET (Neuro Emotional Technique), TFT (Thought Field Therapy), hypnosis, Applied Kinesiology, and Touch For Health. Jef received his B. A. in Psychology, History, and Teaching from the University of Washington and his Masters in Counseling from the University of Oregon.