My wife is in love with me but she is falling for a man at work. She is confused and does not know how it happened. We have 3 kids at home and she says she will try realy hard to make it work.Now my question is what can I do to get her to love me like she used to. I have loved this woman since we were teenagers and my love for her is so strong.Hope you can help us.
According to research, each of us could be perfectly compatible with approximately 10, 000 different people throughout the world. As the French say, to choose is to eliminate, and when a person chooses one life partner, he or she is eliminating the 9, 999 other people who would also be right for him or her.The real question is why is your wife is allowing herself to become attached to someone else. Attachment and falling in love doesn’t happen overnight. A person needs to ‘massage’ the connection with conversation, contact, etc.You need to realize that when a person is having an affair (or about to have one) that he or she is indirectly expressing a lot of anger. The cheating spouse is saying in action, rather than words, you aren’t meeting my needs so I will find someone else who will.If your wife wants to be with you, she needs to cut herself off from this other person and invest herself in her relationship with you. Then you both need to examine with you what may not be working for her in your marriage.A person is ripe for an affair when something isn’t right in the marriage. Ask her what you are doing that isn’t working for her and what you could do to make her feel more connected to you. When you obtain the information, make sure to be responsive to her.