Dear Dr. Love,I am a 28 year old male. I am still a virgin. I have never experienced sex primarily because of my social fears. My only form of sex is masturbation.However when I masturbate I feel very depressed, lonely and sad the next day. It is like a hangover after you drink alcohol.Can you tell me why I experience this and if there is anything I could do.
I understand that you are afraid to get close to women. Since you are afraid to get close to others, the only way to satisfy your sexual needs is through masturbation.I also understand that you feel so sad after you masturabate because the act reminds you of your lonely life. I am sure that somebody hurt you very much when you were growing up and this surely explains your fear of getting close to any woman. What we need to do is figure out exactly who and what traumatized you.When we figure this out, we will have the key to the origin of your ‘social fear.’ The more you talk, the more the pain of the past will heal and the less afraid you will be to connect women women in the now.I have helped so many people heal this type of problem. Contact me in private consulting if you want me to help you work this problem out.