I have been seeing this guy for the past six months and it started off very good but then one night a friend of mine was at my home at 4 AM and I hung up the phone in his face when my friend came in the room.My boyfriend raced out to my home and I had already left to take my friend home when I returned he was at my home already so we argued and he broke it off with me. After that things have not been the same. He has started talking to other women on chat lines and talking to other women on the phone giving his number out and things of that sort.He says that we are friends and I should have nothing to say because he is grown but I help him out in a lot of ways by paying his bills and his car note and we still sleep together can you please help me out because I do not know what to do.
First of all, I think you need to acknowledge to him that you hurt his feelings by hanging up the phone in his face. He didn’t admit that he was hurt (many guys don’t like to admit when they are hurt because doing so would make them feel too vulnerable).Instead, they become angry, which is a more powerful feeling. To make amends with him, I would apologize and admit to him that your behavior was very insensitive.Tell him that you care very much for him. Tell him that you both act like lovers, not just friends, and that you think he says that you’re just friends because he doesn’t feel safe enough to open his heart to you again.Tell him that from here on in you want him to tell you if and when you ever say or do something that hurts him.Tell him again that you care for him and that you want to call him your lover once again. When he feels how much you care for him, I think he’ll let down his guard and admit that he’s your guy again.
