I am 15 years old and i really like this girl in my school. I cant pick up the courage to ask her out and i have read stuff saying just ask her but i don’t think i can.We are friends and i buy her stuff and go with her around school. I really like her and i really want to be with her but i just can’t get the courage so please help.
You are scared to be rejected, The only way you are going to be able to work up the courage to ask this girl out is to embrace the possibility that your worst fear might come true–that she will reject your offer.You need to remind yourself that even if your worst fear comes true and she says ‘no’ you aren’t going to die. You will feel pain and you will get over it. Taking some distance from your feelings can help.Also you can try to prepare yourself for the worst by imagining that she says no. Go through the exercise and feel the feelings of hurt. Doing this over and over again will actually dilute the feelings so that if and when the worst comes to pass you will have already dealt with it. This is kind of like giving yourself allergy shots, which work because you gradually expose yourself to more and more of the substance that makes you sick until you are no longer sick.Along these same lines, you can try a more gradual approach with her. Rather than giving yourself a huge dose of what you’re allergic to (asking her out outright), you could try a tiny dose of what is making you so sick. Instead of asking her out, begin telling her how much you care about her, which is sure to warm her heart. Also ask her questions about how she feels about you.By testing the waters, you will get a sense of whether or not she is interested in having more or not. This is another way of protecting yourself rather than jumping in with both feet.Let me know how you do.