I am having sex with a man that I am attracted to and I cannot have an orgasm. It feels good but I just can not have an orgasm.I was with a guy that is not so attactive a month ago and I got six orgasms in a short period of time. Is it that I am so excited that I cannot have an orgasm or is it something else?
If you were able to orgasm with a man you weren’t that attracted to, then we know that youre plumbing works just fine. It also stands to reason that you would find it even easier to come with a man that you are even more attracted to, that is unless you have some unconscious conflict about letting go with a man for whom you have strong feelings.I suspect that you are afraid to let yourself go with a man that you are so attracted to because you are terrified to let yourself get too close. It is safe to get close to a man that you don’t really feel for, but letting go with a man you do feel so much for is dangerous.The dangers are numerous. You can fall in love, which brings up all kinds of fears of abandonment, rejection, and loss. Such fears find their roots in early trauma. Either you were abandoned or you saw your mother or father being abandoned.The best way to resolve this problem is to do some therapy. In therapy, you will figure out the origin of your fears and heal the wounds that fuel them. This is the key to solving your sexual inhibition.