Dr. Love please help! The man I have been seeing for the past 5 years, has recently told me he is not as sexually attracted to me as he once was due to all the arguments and name calling that has been a part of our relationship for the past several months.We have not had sex in several months and when I try to arouse him, he does not even get an erection. He tells me he loves me but this is serious.He has had ‘situations’ in the past where he was not able to get or obtain an erection, but always blamed it on being tired or not in the mood. He has recently told me he is also depressed, which I suspect has lead to some of the arguments we have had and his attitude of late.He is a 36 year old man. Is this normal? Can we turn it around to have the spark we once had, and I still have? I truly do not think he is seeing someone else, but who knows! Can you help? Thanks
If you want to get the spark back in your sex life, you have to understand the factors that are banking the flames of his desire.Your boyfriend has told you point blank that the arguing and name calling is getting him down in more ways than one. That means that both of you need to find a healthier way of dealing with your angry feelings.My book, Till Death Do Us Part (Unless I Kill You First) is just what the doctor ordered. Many couples on the verge of divorce have been able to rekindle the love that they thought was long lost thanks to the book. Start putting the principles in my book into practice today.We also needs to discuss your boyfriend’s depression. Since depression dampens (no pun intended) a person’s sex drive, we need to resolve the factors that are turning him off.Is he depressed over the conflict between you two? You need to ask him and then work together to resolve your issues.If you get nothing else from my letter, get this: the fact that he has lost the spark is a symptom of larger relationship issues that need addressing. No sexual techniques are going to get him up and running unless you both take care of healing this dysfunctional relationship.
