The best way to mend a broken heart is to figure out what unfinished business (what childhood wound you were hoping to heal) was being played out in your relationship. When you identify the wound, you will understand why you are feeling so bereft. Since we all enter love affairs with the unconscious fantasy or wish to fix what went wrong for us in childhood, when an affair ends we feel defeated in our attempt to heal the original wound.For example, agirl was abandoned by her father at age 5. She grows up and falls in love with a distant man, secretly hoping that if she can make him stay and love her that her original wound with dad will be healed. But, when the lover leaves, she is not only sad because she lost him, she is also bereft because her hope of healing the wound with her father has melted with the lover’s leaving.So, become aware of your old wound. Next, fill your life with friends that love and nourish you. This is a healthy way of filling the void from the original wound. And, finally, allow yourself to talk about the loss. Talking will help you to let go.My best wishes to you on a speedy recovery. And, I hope that your next relationship meets your needs.
