Dear Dr. Love, I had a 4 year relationship with a man who is a dear person but had a tragic childhood. He and 2 brothers were raised by a paranoid schizophrenic mother who alternated between being very loving and abusiveness.When his father gained custody of them, they had a stepmother who was verbally abusive. I could not live with his explosive temper, but we remained friends and he now has had a relationship with another woman for many, many years. She and I get along well.Within the last 5 months both his mother and father passed away. His girlfriend has phoned me to say his temper is acting up again and he is verbally abusive. She is asking me for advice, as if she might leave him also. I would hate to see him lose support at this vulnerable time.Can you advise me what I should say to his girlfriend?