I’m 17, and have never had a boyfriend, but there is a guy at my school that I have completely fallen for. He’s really sweet, intelligent, funny, has a great sense of morals, and is mature. . . a quality that most guys my age don’t usually seem to possess.I’ve known him for two years, although we are really more acquaintances than friends. We also take two classes together at school. I would really like to get to know him better, but I’m incredibly shy. . . especially when it comes to guys.I am afraid to talk to him, because I don’t want to scare him off by making it obvious that I am interested in him.Do you have any suggestions on what I should do?
If you have been reading my columns for a while, you are familiar with the term ‘Green Lights.’ This expression refers to the fact that men don’t actually approach women until they have received several Green Lights, which include smiles, an approachable body language, eye contact, and so on.The reason why men hang back and wait is because they are actually frightened to be rejected. And, observational research has shown that it is the women who actually do the approaching through the use of Green Lights.So, add Green Lights to your behavioral repertoire. And, when he notices you, and approaches you to talk, ask him interested questions about himself. We are all drawn to those people who show an interest in us and offer positive feedback. That’s a big start.Let me know how it goes.Don’t forget to send copies of your wedding photos!