Everyone (and this includes friends and the people who write magazine articles) seem to talk about the frequency of having sex. I am recently married (three months), am totally physically attracted to my husband – he is a babe – I love him etc. . . but I just do not have the sex drive, never have with him.We have sex about twice or three times a month. I used to have sex more, like 4-5 times a week with other boyfriends, but I don’t miss it. He is fine with it, but I have a feeling he would want more if I were into it.Am I abnormal? What can I do to increase my sex drive?
I assume that when you were having sex 4-5 times a week with other boyfriends that your desire level was stronger during that time. We need to figure out what happened to your desire. Did it abruptly drop off or did it dwindle away slowly? Did your sex drive die off after marriage?If the answer is yes, then unrecognized emotional conflicts may be behind the loss of desire. How is your health? Are you depressed? Are you stressed out? Are your menstrual cycles normal? Do you have your period every 28 days or so? Do you have a hormone imbalance (do you have PMS, mood swings, etc.?)At this point, you need to rule out all the medical and emotional conditions that are known to affect the sex drive. Keep in mind that hormone imbalances can be so subtle that they will not be detected by conventional blood tests.If your research yields normal blood tests, and you can find no emotional issues that might explain the problem, then try taking some supplements that are designed to ease hormone imbalance and increase sex drive.Some ideas: Wild Green Oats are known to improve the sex drive. This supplement only seems to work for women you have had a good sex drive at some time in the past, which seems to be your case.Higher testosterone levels are associated with greater sex drive. You can try supplements that up your testosterone level. Pregnenolone is one of these. This supplement is not to be taken if someone is suffering from cancer or prostate disease.Keep in mind that weight lifting naturally increases testosterone levels. You can also try supplements that help with hormone imbalance. The phytoestrogens (nonsynthetic types) and flax seed oil are very helpful. Pro-Gest skin cream has also helped many women.Good luck. I hope you wear a hole in your mattress very soon.