Dr. Love, WHAT SHOULD I DO? I am in my mid-twenties and have never been out with anyone let alone slept with anyone or confessed my interests to anyone.I was sexually molested as a child through my teens. I told no one until I was twenty when I moved away. I come from a small community where words spread very quickly. In addition my parents would would have killed the guy had they known.When I left I was finally able to confess my pain to friends whom I could trust. I have never had consultations on this, but took up Psycology in college in order to understand and help myself to privately overcome my anger, fears and depression.So far, I have rid most of my depression and anger, but I can’t seem to get past my fear of men. I am told daily, by people in my community that I am very attractive and personable, and I have respect from everyone. I even get asked out on dates. But before they even finish asking I lie to them, saying I already have someone or some other excuse.I have, however, developed a very strong attraction for a man who works not far from me. I make up excuses to visit his store and have bought items there that I don’t even need.I don’t know anything about him except his name, but for the first time I am finding myself attracted. Do to my fear I can’t flirt with him, and whenever he makes eye contact I turn away. I don’t want him to think that I am not interested, yet I can’t make myself indicate anything different and right now I am afraid of losing someone that I don’t even have.Fantasies have always comforted me, but now I am feeling desires and I do not know how to make them reality. Please help. Thank you.