Please, I need your guidance. I am a single, 45 year old woman who has never been in a satisfying, respectful, long-term relationship with a man.Yet, I am an accomplished woman in other areas of my life: I am a professional person, have many wonderful friendships, a good family life, am intelligent, adventurous and generous of heart.In my 20s and early 30s I never thought I was attractive enough to date. I had a very large nose and I decided to have plastic surgery 8 years ago and have been very pleased with the results. I now think I am attractive, but my hurdle now seems to be something within myself.Men who are attracted to me (and me attracted to them) either turn out to be interested in a sexual fling, or they end up pulling away within three months.And I am not attracted to men who can be described as nice but seem too boring or dull for my liking. In my 20s I often had affairs with married men or had one-night stands. In my 30s I didn’t date at all and was celibate for several years.But in the past 6 years I have made the effort to get out and date again to meet men who are well-suited for me. I just don’t seem to be able to be in a sustaining relationship.Dr. Love, can you please help me understand what I may be doing that sabotages my chance of finding a satisfying relationship with a man? I want to make right whatever I may be doing wrong.