Dr. Love,I am a 25-year-old single female. I am very well educated with several advanced degrees, and possess many unique talents within the creative arts. I have been told by many that I am quite attractive. My problem is that for most of my life I have been alone, without long-term boyfriends and almost always dateless.Although I’m not a people-person, I am trying to overcome my insecurities with others and do try to get out and socialize. I am small and fit, with very good hygiene. I take pride in my appearance and am well-put together. I don’t smoke or drink, and I try to make myself seem approachable. I simply cannot figure out why it is so very hard for me to meet someone. I see many less attractive, less intelligent women who are involved. I get admiring stares from much older men constantly, but within my own peer group there seem to be no takers. The very few who have expressed interest I find very unattractive, both physically and in many cases intellectually. Men often ask me how it is that I don’t have a boyfriend. I don’t know.I have asked my friends. They say they don’t know. Each time I have made subtle advances toward a man whom I admire, I am rebuffed. I have come almost to expect it. Still, I try to keep my chin up, keep hope alive, all that. I am terribly afraid that I may never marry, have children, even just have sex ever again.One important note: My first love was years ago. He was everything a girl could have wanted, so he seemed. And he dumped me totally without warning, without explanation, and devastated me. Since then he has married, and although I am no longer in love with him, I find the whole thing incredibly painful. It hurts beyond words to think of him having taken this woman in a year after me, having found in her whatever he didn’t in me. I am aware this is destructive thinking. I have been to therapy many times. But since then I have been rejected in some form or another by every man I have dated–that ‘s been 3 in 4 years. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know what is wrong with me. I know what I have written is quite long, but I hope you can help.