Hello.. I am sending you this mail from Malaysia. I am not very good in English, but i hope you can understand me. anyway…my problem is that i fell in love (love at first sight) with a man. I phone him since last year. The problem is that he doesn’t know me. I did try and invite him for breafast and luch but he keeps on giving excuses. I know he like me but the prolem is he’s to shy. I keep on thinking about him day and nite. What shall i do..Pleasa don’t tell me to forget about him. I just can’t do it. Please help me.
Usually when a man continues to refuse a woman’s invitations, it is a sign that he isn’t interested in her. You say you are sure that his shyness is causing him to refuse you. Let’s assume that you are correct.If shyness is his problem, you can say to him,’When you refuse my invitations, should I understand that you aren’t interested in knowing me better?’ If he says,’That’s not true!’ Then you might say,’Then, what are your refusals telling me about how you feel?’He might say,’I don’t know.’ You could continue,’I have the impression that you are afraid to get to know me better. Is that so?’See what he says. And keep talking and asking questions. Eventually, we should be able to get to the bottom of his resistance. He could be afraid that you won’t like him once you get to know him. He could be afraid of being rejected. We don’t know until you talk about this directly. Good luck. I hope he comes around.
