I AM NOT CURRENTLY ON ANY MEDICATIONS, I HAVE ASKED MY DOCTOR TO HELP AND OF COURSE SINCE HE IS A MAN HE DIDNT UNDERSTAND AND I WAS JUST TOTALLY EMBARASSED. (SORRY IF MY SPELLING IS BAD).ANYWAY I HAVE TROUBLE HAVING AN ORGASM. THIS IS NOT A JOKE AND IS DRIVING ME CRAZY. I AM MARRIED AND OF COURSE MY HUSBAND DOESNT KNOW THIS BECAUSE I FAKE IT SO HE WONT THINK IT IS HIS FAULT.I DOUCHE WITH REGULAR WATER WITHOUT PUTTING ANYTHING IN IT. GOSH CAN YOU HELP ME. I DONT WANT MY HUSBAND TO FIND OUT SO REALLY CANT GO ANYWHERE ELSE.PLEASE HELP IF YOU CAN.
I hear how distressed you are. In order to figure out the causes of the problem, I need to ask you a lot of questions, so brace yourself.First of all, I need to know if the difficulty in achieving an orgasm is new. Is this a problem you have always had? Did you ever find it easy to achieve an orgasm with your husband? If you never have found it easy with him, or has it always been hard (no pun intended) with him? Did you find it easy with other men? Do you masturbate? Can you easily achieve orgasms on your own? Did you find it difficult to orgasm on your own? Was this always the case?What we want to determine is if the problem is situational, meaning that it is related to your feelings about your husband and the marriage. In which case, you will know that you need to work on the relationship.If you find it hard to orgasm in all cases, then we need to know if it’s always been difficult for you. If so, when did you start having difficulty? Can you trace the problem to a specific instance (for example, my husband cheated on me) or a specific time in your life (my periods stopped)?We want to see if the problem is emotional, physical or a combination of both, which is very common. We need to know if you were ever molested, which is a common cause of sexual numbing. You also need a complete medical work-up to rule out diabetes and hormone imbalances.Realize that changes in sex drive and sexual performance can be a sign that you are in menopause or peri-menopause. There are all kinds of natural ways to boost your hormones, but you first need to figure out if your hormones are off.Many women do well with Pro-Gest cream, which supplies natural progesterone. And, wild green oats are very effective in restoring sexual function to women who were once sexually responsive.Also make sure that you don’t have an overgrowth of candida albicans, which have been implicated in loss of sex drive and performance. See Dr. Crook’s book, The Yeast Connection, to find out more about this.Also consider that you may be depressed. Sexual dysfunction is a common symptom of depression. Stress and buried anger also kills sex drive and performance.My message is work on identifying the source of the problem. And, remember to visit a good wholistic doctor who can help you rule out undetected physical problems.By all means, don’t start taking supplements to treat the symptom before you understand the cause of the problem. Let me know the result of your inquiry. We can certainly improve this problem, once we have more facts.