I met a man we went out on a first date all through the date he kept saying what a great time he was having and mentioning other activities he would like to do with me and then he said I was incredible and wonderful.I really felt chemistry with this gentleman. At the end of the date he asked me if I had a good time and if I would like to see him again I said yes, he called me twice the next day and then I returned his call the day after and then he took 3 days to return my call we set up a time to go out again he called and cancelled saying he received a ticket to a concert he really wanted to see and I called him and said I understand and to call me later and I have not heard from him since?Should I call him or is this a sign he does not want to see me again.Please help! Please.
You’ve heard of a person with cold feet, well this guy’s feet are frozen solid.He is telling you through his behavior (by not calling) that he needs to keep his distance, so I wouldn’t call. Realize that his disappearance isn’t about whether he wants to see you, personally, again. I am sure that he heads for the hills each time he meets a woman that he really likes. The problem here is that he liked you too much.Realize also that he will probably call you again if you make yourself distant. But, all will be far from resolved. He will become scared once again and you will be left with a twitchy dialing finger, wondering’should I or shouldn’t I call’all over again.If he does call, you might want to use a technique called the ‘prognostic intervention’in which you predict the future, in this case that he will disappear again. The purpose of this intervention is to spark the other person’s awareness of an issue or problem that exists inside his/her psyche. Once the person is aware, he may feel challenged into working on the issue.Bottom line: I don’t hold out too much hope for a relationship with him.