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I am a 28-year old divorced woman in love with a 42-year old divorced male with two teenage daughters, both of whom reside with their mother.We met each other in the workplace; the first time we laid eyes on each other we were instantly attracted.However, I put him WAY out of my head because at the time I was engaged and getting ready to get married. Sadly, around 7 months after the wedding, my husband and I started having serious problems. He began to try and ‘control’ me in ways he’d never done in the 5 years that we had lived together and he even ended up having an affair.Crushed, humiliated and broken-hearted, we separated and eventually divorced.During our separation, the gentleman I mentioned above surfaced in my life and we began to see each other. I don’t know how it happened, but we suddenly fell madly in love with each other. He helped me through some of the most difficult times in my life which really bonded us, and I gave him a happiness he hadn’t experienced in many years.It has been almost a year since we started seeing each other and we feel more and more in love with each other with every passing day. However, even though we share something truly special, I have a few concerns that we haven’t been able to address.One of them is a family issue. Despite the fact that I’m recently divorced, which puts me in a vulnerable position with my family in terms of introducing someone new to them, I’ve introduced him to them without fear of judgement or disapproval. Yet he’s been unable to introduce me to his family; his two daughters, in particular.At one point, he even told a friend of mine that he was avoiding introducing me to them but offered no reason as to why. This really has me perplexed. Part of me wonders if he’s ashamed because of our age difference and another part of me wonders if it’s a sign that he’s not planning on having a more committed relationship with me.The second item is, he’s had a vasectomy. I do want at least one child of my own, but he seems dead set against having another. Yet he contradicts himself because he adores children and even jokes around about the two of us having them. . . ‘what if’. . .I know that he loves me enough that I could talk him into it (with the appropriate medical technology, that is); but I would never make anyone do anything they weren’t 100% sure was right.We haven’t discussed either of these issues – I’ve been trying to respect his privacy. It’s not as if I need to have this information immediately. But in a way, I do. I’m not getting any younger either!You’d think that after a year we could talk about these things openly. I suppose I’m just afraid that if I talk to him about this he will freak out and leave me. I know how difficult both issues are for him and I don’t want him to feel like giving up.Is this an impossible relationship?