Tell me Please, why I end up begging my husband of almost a year to have sex with me?He isn’t cheating on me, he isn’t shy, our sex life was great in Germany, but since we moved back to the states, he seems reserved, not as interested in me as he was a few months ago. when I do get him in bed he is great! Above and Beyond, so why the change?
You need to ask him what his behavior means. Since all behavior is a communication, it’s for him to translate his nonverbal communication (refusing sex) into a verbal communication that you can understand.To start this ball rolling, ask him, ‘How should I interpret your not wanting sex?” How should I understand this behavior?’I would also want to determine whether his refusal of sex is a way of indirectly expressing anger. To check this out you could ask, ‘How do you want me to feel about the lack of sex?’If he is holding back to get even with you, he might smirk or he might tell you he doesn’t care how you feel. Based upon his response, you will know whether he is sticking it to you (only not in the way you want).It is always possible that the sexual hiatus reflects an individual problem. He may be ill, depressed, stressed. So, you will want to find out if he has any drive at all. If he masturbates, etc.If he is dead from the waist down all the time then you can suspect a physical or emotional problem. If, however, his lack of desire is confined to you, then we know that we are dealing with a relationship issue. In which case, we want him to talk about, not act out, his issues with you.Good luck.