hi. . i am a 16 year old girl and i have an imbarrising question when me and my boyfriend have sex i do not have an orgasm at al he has to rub on the upper part of my private part in order for me to have one and then i have to some times picture women haveing forceful sex what does this mean?? i am not a lesbian or anything am i??? and why am i not having orgasms during sex. . . please help me!!!