Dr Turndorf,I met a man about 4 years ago, we were very attracted to each other. He was married, so we stayed friends. He has been divorced for a year now.We talk all the time on the phone. He suggests he can’t date me because of his Muslim religion.I’m 13 years older than he is. I have a teenage boy at home, so I like to keep things on a good level with him.I really care for this man, yet he always suggests things, says how much he wants to be with me, but never comes through. . . . . . . . . . . I still live my life.Where do I go with this
It sounds like you are going nowhere with this man. He is clearly attracted to you, but also highly conflicted about being with you.He says that he’s a Muslim and that this is the reason he can’t be with you. He needs to explain why he feels that his faith is an obstacle to your relationship. Obviously, this isn’t clear to you.All you can do at this point is put the cards on the table. Tell him that you see that he’s conflicted and that you want an open discussion about what stops him from moving forward. Ask lots of questions and don’t make any rash decisions.When you find out more about his hesitations, you can contact me in my offline consulting division and I can advise you on the best way to proceed. Good luck.