First, a quick briefing. . . . I met a man who was separated from his wife. We started dating and he proceeded with the divorce. About a year later he left me and went back to his ex-wife.Yes I still love him and believe he loves me too, but he won’t leave her to be with me again. Is there anything I can do to try to change his mind? If not, what can I do to change my mind?
I understand how much you care for this man and it is very painful when love isn’t returned. I’m afraid that there is little that you can do to change his mind. As you probably know, it’s hard enough to change your own mind let alone someone else’s.As for your second question, how can you change your own mind, that ‘s the real issue here. You are in love with a man who isn’t reciprocating your feelings.I’ve written extensively about this problem in my book, Till Death Do Us Part (Unless I Kill You First), in my Advice Archives under the heading ‘Unfinished Childhood Business’ and’repetition Compulsion.’ In short, whenever we find ourselves unable to let go of someone who isn’t loving us in return, you can be sure that your psyche is recreating a wound from childhood in which one or both of your parents didn’t love you the way you needed.The mind, left to it’s own devices, will use our adult relationships to replay over and over again the wounds we suffered as children in an attempt to work through the painful feelings of the past and in the hopes of obtaining a healing of the early wounds this time around. In order to change your own mind, you first need to identify and then heal the wound that needs healing.My Personality Profile consultation will help you decipher the exact nature of your early wound and will then give you step-by-step instructions on how to heal it. When the wound is healed, you won’t need to ‘convince’ yourself to let him go. Your mind, heart, and soul will just let him go naturally and then you will be ready for a partner who is ready, willing, and able to love you back.Don’t wait to begin your healing. Life is so very short.