Hi,I have been in a long distance relantionship with my boyfriend for over 1year and 2months together he is 25 and lives in Jamaica am 19 and i live in sweden i have travelled to his country and stayed at his place met his family and friends who were nice to me.He has two children from two different women i knew about that and i had no problem with him because he is my first love the guy i lost
Hi,I have been in a long distance relantionship with my boyfriend for over 1year and 2months together he is 25 and lives in Jamaica am 19 and i live in sweden i have travelled to his country and stayed at his place met his family and friends who were nice to me.He has two children from two different women i knew about that and i had no problem with him because he is my first love the guy i lost my virginity to i love his kids and make sure am dere for them buy them stuff send money to them when needed, my boyfriend is a caring, loving man and he gave me his password to his facebook i never doubted his loyalty to me but lately his been to comfortable in the relantionhip we talk everyday on phone but we are not skyping its not like before.acouple of days i ago i went in his facebook and i found a message which i have never seen it was sent when we were dating for four months from his baby mama saying.” You dont love me stop pretending its her you love go ahead and be with her enjoy your life and i will defitely move on.”
I asked him about it and he said he never wrote to any girl before and i have his passwod all this time and he is not in contact with his ex that he does not hate his ex but he is not in love with her to want to be in a relantionship with her and its the ex who has been trying to get back together with him and he shouted and told me am an accuser and he is tired of begging me i should go ahead and do what i want he curses at me when he is angry and i admit i too curse at him but he takes it to the next level he has never threated to break up the relantionship during each argument but its me who always tells him its over and am trying to work on it. True he did not write to his ex on facebook because he is not foolish to since i have his password but i believe he might have called her or gone over her place and the girl deceided to write to him on facebook, now i feel like i dont trust him or maybe he was going behind my back with her all this time.He wrote to my mother not explaining anything but saying am immature and insecure of normal stuff, he has not tried to call me four the past four days and i have not tried to contact him aswell am confused and hurt because i have been there for this guy aot and dont know what to do
This is quite a mess. Your boyfriend gave you his Facebook password, which would indicate that he has nothing to hide. He says that his ex wants him back, but that he doesn’t. And, in fact, you have verified that he never wrote back to her on Facebook.What the ex said on Facebook makes no sense to me. You quote her as saying, “You don’t love me; stop pretending it’s her you love go ahead and be with her enjoy your life and I will definitely move on.â€Because she wrote to him when you were already 4 months into your relationship with him I can see why you are concerned that he might have continued an involvement with her.What I’m wondering is why he gave you his Facebook password? Did he do this to make you jealous? Did he do this to prove his loyalty to you?The real question is why you don’t trust him. Why you feel that he went behind your back and has been seeing his ex all the time. Do you have evidence other than what his ex said?Does this guy have a history of cheating on his former girlfriends? What do you know about his past relationships?You did say that he has two children from two different women. What’s the story there?There’s a lot you don’t know about him and his past behavior. The long distance isn’t helping you feel secure, since you can’t lay eyes on him every day.You need to have a calm talk with him. Get to know him better. Share your insecurities without making him feel blamed. My book Kiss Your Fights Goodbye will show you exactly how to do this.I wish you so much luck.
