I’ve recently run into a problem that I’ve never encountered before. I’ve been dating this man for two months now and we recently decided to take the relationship to the next stage and make love. Well, we had fooled around before this and I would say that my love has an average size penis.When we made love, I experienced a suction sensation that was on the border of painful but mostly just uncomfortable. I couldn’t continue. He says that it is because of the width of his penis and he has had girlfriends tell him this before and it just takes some getting used to. I, on the other hand, didn’t notice any unusual width before. Could this be because I’ve been abstanant for a few months? I know this relationship is special but I’m hesitant to try this again because I’ve found it so unusual and never felt that before.Please help, Too Big?
First of all, we need to make sure that you don’t normally experience pain in intercourse. Is it true that when you never experienced pain before when you have slept with other men?Second, are you sure that you don’t have an infection which can make intercourse painful. Symptoms of infection can include: unusual discharge, odor or pain in intercourse.Third, are you sure that you were fully relaxed and lubricated when you attempted intercourse. The first time with a new partner can be stressful, and, for a woman, this stress can prevent the vagina from widening and balooning to its full size, as well as diminish or prevent normal lubrication. If you didn’t enlarge fully and lubricate, this could explain your pain.If you have ruled out all these possibilities, then, we can assume that his width may be problematic. You might try experimenting with positions in which penetration isn’t as deep. For example, rear or side entry positions permit less deep penetration, and you may feel more comfortable. After you play around with positions, get back to me and let me know if you are still stuck (or should I say, he is still stuck).