My boyfriend is 64 years old and I am 60. After he ejaculates he immediately becomes angry. . . does not want to touch or cuddle and seems to have a great aversion to his come. His need for sex is not as frequent as mine (he would be happy with once a month) and he feels that he will be the one to initiate. He will frequently tease me sexually. . . and then deliberately not follow through.I cannot figure this guy out. He has alot of unresolved anger and likes to control.Please advise, Dr. Love. Is there any hope for this relationship?????
There is hope for most any relationship, depending on how much a person is willing to put up with! My question to you isn’t very different from the question I asked the lady in love with the ambivalent pilot. Why do you want to be with a man who behaves so sadistically toward you?Teasing you sexually and not following through is downright mean. We know that this man is angry at women. He seems to hate the fact that he needs you sexually, and once he’s given in to his urges, he’s enraged. He seems to hate to need you, which makes him feel out-of-control. He soon rights the power scales by putting himself back in charge. Taunting you sexually and then leaving you hanging sure leaves him on top.Meanwhile, you are left dangling. The man is seriously ill. You need to find out why you would allow yourself to be treated this way. Clearly your earliest relationships taught you that you aren’t supposed to get what you want. You are to be frustrated,Focus on yourself. Understand where you learned that being treated this way is acceptable. When you find the origin of your wound and work to heal it, I think that you will find this man far less appealing. He is keeping you right at home (meaning your first family). But, do you want to stay there forever?