I am a 16 year old boy from MA.I, for the past 2 or 3 years have been having feelings twords the same sex, i don’t have anything against gays, but i DON’T want to be one.I like girls too, but just keep on feeling that i want penis. I need help, i don’t not want to be gay durring this life. HELP ME 🙁
You are brave to ask such a question.What you need to know is that human beings are bisexual by nature. Societies impose the heterosexual lifestyle as the only’proper’choice in order to insure that men and women continue to marry, bear children, and raise those children, who will, in turn, insure the continuance of the species.Since homosexual or bisexual lifestyles would not insure the continuance of the species, societies place taboos on these lifestyles. Nevertheless, all human beings have homosexual and bisexual urges. You are just honest enough to admit your humanity.Just because you have these urges doesn’t mean that you must act on them. Since you seem decided that you don’t want to practice a gay lifestyle, then you don’t have to. You are free to have your thoughts, feelings, fantasies, and urges, and leave it at that. It is wrong to think that we are obligated to act on all our urges. Society would be destroyed in a day if we acted on every single urge that came up (no pun intended).Think about it. We all have murderous impulses, but, of course, that doesn’t mean we should act on those. What you need to do is become comfortable with your feelings, and go on and live your life.The only caveat I have for you is that you must make sure that you are going to be comfortable with the heterosexual choice. If you are simply bisexual, then you will probably not feel too’cheated’if you choose to be with women, and don’t choose to be with men. This is because your attraction is equally strong for both sexes.However, if you are predominantly homosexual, then choosing to only be with women may be too great a sacrifice. This doesn’t sound to be your case.If I were you, I would talk to a therapist so that you can become more comfortable with your normal feelings. Your goal is to be at peace with your bisexual urges, and comfortable with your chosen heterosexual lifestyle.