Dr. Love,My story is somewhat long, but I’ll try to keep it short. About four months ago I noticed my 39 year old wife of whom I’ve known for twenty years and been married to for thirteen yrs. , begin to act strangely. We have four BEAUTIFUL children ages 11, 9, 7, 6 and a new home.She all of a sudden stopped wearing her wedding rings, and started going out w/friends. She also thinks nothing of strolling in at 4am. She also started wearing sexy undies, and deleting phone incoming and out going logs in her cell phone. I finally couldn’t take it any longer and had her followed.She lied to me as to where she was going, only to have been observed going to and emerging from a single man’s appt. When I confronted her she denied ALL of it up to and including the fact that the person leaving her vehicle and entering the house was not her. I finally confronted the guy and he has confirmed that she has been w/ him several times.He says there is no sex(???) I’m not quite sure whether to believe him and her or not (she is already a liar in my book). She tells me she loves me but she’s not sure she’s in love w/ me. I don’t quite get this but!!!! She says she’s burnt out, (job, kids, life, etc. . )She is also one to NOT talk. She keeps it all inside and leaves you to have to guess whats going on w/her. My question here for you is does this relationship stand a chance?Should I cut my losses and ruin my family (she ruined it not me) or wait it out in hopes she gets her head screwed back on right?? Could this be a mid life crisis?? and if so typically how long do they last?? I asked her if she wanted me to leave and she said NO, not unless you want to.I’m basically staying to spare the kids, and hoping she will come around soon. ANY advice you have or ANY reading you might suggest will be greatly appreciated.I’m sick to death over this and sinking fast. . . . Thanx in advance