I’ve been seeing this guy for almost a year. We use to do everything together but he likes to party and he gets very out of control when he drinks. I also found other girl’s phone numbers in his wallet which he says their just friends.He has cheated on me once before. Lately I’ve got another job and meant someone else. He’s a great guy and I care a lot for him. I do anything for him and he’d do anything for me. What should I do?Should I wait and try to work things out with my boyfriend or move on?I don’t want to let a good one get away. Please help me!!
You probably know that I don’t tell people what choices to make. Instead I help people resolve the inner blocks that prevent them from making their own decisions.When you ask me if you should try to work it out, I know that you think that the real issue here is to stay or go. But, I’ve got to tell you that I think the issue here is about why you would even consider sticking with an unfaithful alchoholic who shows no signs of wanting to improve himself.Many women stay, even when their relationships are sinking ships. You need to find out where you learned that you are supposed to stick with a scene that is bad and unhealthy for you.Most of us had mothers who were martyrs. All of us have watched our mothers and grandmothers give up their lives to help, nurture and support other people, even when they suffered for doing so. Not a healthy thing to do.Figure out where you got the idea that you should stick around when your needs are being violated. Then, do an attitude adjustment, and remind yourself that you are supposed to take care of number one and stay in your comfort zone.Good luck. I hope you decide to take care of you.