Hello Dr. Turndorf,I’m in love with a girl who also loves me in the same way. I’ve been in a relationship with her for the last two years. But the problem lies with our parents.They want us to study first, but I can’t leave her. I can’t live without her. If my parents will agree to talk about this in front of them, then what should I do? Should I support my family or my parents?I thank you.
It’s a great idea to talk to your parents.Obviously you can’t support your family and your parents at your own expense. It wouldn’t be fair of them to ask you to violate yourself in order to honor their wishes.Tell them that you love and respect them. Tell them that you also agree with their wishes for you to study first. Then tell them that it’s vital that you not get locked into an either/or situation. You can study and still keep your relationship alive.Tell them that your love for this woman is so strong, that you won’t be able to concentrate or study unless the relationship is permitted to continue. I am sure that with an honest discussion you will be able to work this out.Let me know what happens!