I am a 55 year old man who dated a 62 year old woman 14 times but we never went below the belt. When I did suck her breasts, she did not get aroused which surprised me.She grabs my hand and says ‘whoa ‘ when I try to touch her down there. She says she is not ready to be a couple and she will have sex when she wants to. She did tell me she did not have instant chemistry with me when I met her.While I touch her often, she does not reciprocate. She either has no sexual desire or is not sexually attracted to me. I feel that she is a cold fish and is using me so I asked her to go Dutch and she agreed.I feel that she just wants a male escort and is only interested in companionate love. I am interested in a sexual relationship. My gut feeling is that after 14 dates if nothing has happened I should ditch her and move on.What do you think? Should I have ditched her sooner?
It sounds like you want different things from this relationship. You clearly want sex and she doesn’t, for whatever reason. If you don’t want to be a male escort who supplies companionship only, then you have made the decision for yourself.What’s the point of asking yourself or me whether you should have ditched her sooner. The time is now, so decide what you want and talk to her. If she isn’t on the same page as you are and doesn’t see herself getting on the same page as you any time in the near future, then your decision is made.