We are together more than 2 years now, we are at the last year of school. We live in a long-distance relationship. When we first started talking on social media i didn’t have any intention to make her my girlfriend or anything like that. We talked a lot and after a month or so we finally met in real life, since then we are together and we meet every 2nd weeks on weekends. At the end of last year I started thinking about breaking up because I felt like I am not in love with her anymore, our relationship is not as perfect as it was, I am kind of “bored”, the “fire” is not part of our relationship anymore . I managed to forget about this things but now a few weeks back I started thinking about it again. Until now I wasn’t really cared about other girls, but now I really like a girl in school, but I would break up before I would go as far as cheating on my girlfriend.
I dont know what to do, i am scared of regretting my decision if I break up.
When you say the fire is not part of the relationship any longer, I wonder if you may be confusing the initial excitement that is normal in every relationship. After about 6 months the fire often dies, not because couples are no longer in love but because the chemicals that are firing in the early stage of a relationship literally fire you up. These initial chemicals tone done over time and many people make the mistake of thinking that the love is gone, when it isn’t!
You sound young to me and I wonder if you haven’t had much relationship and dating experience. I have a new booklet coming out very soon called Dr. Love’s Relationship Toolkit. The Toolkit consists of several tests that I have created for helping people assess their relationships. One of the tests is Are We Compatible? Another is Am I in Love or Only in Lust? Another is Create-a-Mate, which helps you flesh out your ideal partner.
All the tests in the Toolkit will help you to better assess your relationship.
The fact that you wonder if you will regret ending it means that you do care about this woman. You don’t want to do anything until you see clearer into yourself and your relationship.
Keep checking the site and use the Toolkit as soon as it’s available.
Let me know what you figure out!
