i am a male 24 years old, i have a friend that i have known for over ten years now, and i love her so much and shes the only one for me, it has taken me most of those years to realize, i have played the field, and got everything out of my system.well my friend she is a year younger than me, and is now married, and has two kids, at the same time she tells me shes not happy and wants to be with me, but is stuck in her situation, we have never been romanticaly involved, but we are so very close , and in my heart she is my soul mate, and i have told her all my feelings about her, and she tells me she that she is deeply inlove with me too, . . .should i keep persuing this or not??. . . i am so miserable not being able to be with her, or should i say the ol’ if its meant to be it will line?. .and am i wrong for telling her my true feelings????she says i make her cry when she thinks about me and are situation. i just don’t know, please help my confusion. . . .
What a sad situation. By the time you realized that she was the one for you, she was already taken. Now the question is, does she want to exit her marriage or not.When you declare your love to her, she cries and it isn’t clear what the tears mean. Is she torn? Is she also in love with her husband? Does she feel worried that she would hurt the children if she were to break up the family?You need to talk a lot more about where she’s coming from. If she wants to stay in the marriage, then you are going to have to decide what is best for you–to break contact or to try to maintain a friendship.You asked me if you should stop declaring your feelings for her. You need to clarify why you are asking this question. Are you asking what’s best for her? If so, you have to ask her if she wants you to stop telling her your feelings for her. Only she can say whether it’s best for her to hear your feelings or not.Married people with children do get divorced, so if you are meant to be together then you will find a way to unite. I hope that the dust settles soon and you find a way of moving forward one way or another.