I’ve been with my fiance for over two years now. The problem is that she will not let me ejaculate inside of her, even though she is on birth control.She allows me to have sex with her without a condom, but she always insists that I wear a condom before I ejaculate. She has admitted that sex feels better without a condom, but she thinks the mere thought of me ejaculating inside her is disgusting.I’ve asked her many times ‘why’, but she can not come up with any better answer besides the fact that she thinks it’s ‘disgusting.’ It might be important to add that she was sexually abused as a child. She will not get into any details, but when I ask her if the molestor had sex with her, she says no.Do you have any suggestions as to how this can be fixed? Should I be more sensitive?
Since you aren’t getting anywhere in talking with her, go together to see a couples therapist. She needs to talk about why she is disgusted by ejaculate. Her feeling is surely connected to childhood abuse and taking about her feelings will help.I have also seen patients experience success using a technique called EMDR, which frees people from the emotional scarring associated with traumatic experiences. Let me know how you do.