I have a small question hope u can help me out. My girlfriend and I, haven’t really spend alot of time on dates or something like that. So, we spend alot of times on the phone! I love her alot, but now, I feel we are running out things to say!!!I was just wondering, if you can help me out, so that, we can know more about each other, through the phone, rather than just stay on the line don’t know what to talk about. Thank you very much. Hope, you have a very nice day.
Your question is great. The best way to know each other is to ask questions. All kinds of questions about thoughts, feelings, tastes, interests, hobbies, past experiences, previous relationships, family life, etc.When you engage one another in these emotionally charged subjects, you will not feel at a loss. On the contrary, talking about what is emotionally real is very compelling. In fact, we form our strongest attachments to those people with whom we share strong feelings.Be aware of the fact that sometimes silences and being at a loss for words can be a cover-up for very strong feelings that are too threatening or painful to discuss.So, I would also wonder if either of you is fearful to discuss certain feelings that are coming up between you. For example, there may be a holding back on one or both your parts because of a fear of revealing too much interest before the other person declares his or her own feelings of attachment.So, both of you are holding back and tongue-tied, so that nobody will have to risk ‘going first.’ You might make that observation to her and see if she agrees.That should get the discussion ball rolling. Good luck.
