Hi Dr. Love,I am Narendra and I’m 17. I proposed to a 16 year old girl named Leena. She told me yes at that time, but now due to some family problems she is refusing my proposal.I am deeply and truly in love with her and not able to forget her. Because of this I am not able to concentrate on my studies. My diet isn’t good now.So please Dr. Love, tell me something to cope with this situation because I am really in a great pain.
I’m so sorry to hear how you’re suffering.My first thought was to talk with her about the family problems and see if you can come up with a plan for resolving it. I say this because she didn’t refuse the proposal because she doesn’t love you or doesn’t want to be with you. It sounds like she isn’t the problem, her family is.Since you love her so much, I wouldn’t give up on her that easily! Talk to her and find out all the details about the family problem. Do her parents not approve of your marriage because of your young age? Do they not approve of you, your religion, your family background or class? I want to know everything?When you know, ask her if she would still want to marry you if her parents came around? If she says, yes, then don’t give up on your love. It’s a gift that shouldn’t be discarded. Your heart and body already knows this.Ask her permission to speak with her family. You will already be forewarned as to the nature of their issues, so you will be armed with answers that will, hopefully, ease their minds. If, for example, they object to your marrying so young, you might tell them that you will wait for her until you’re older.But you just love her too much to ever give her up. Seeing your love and devotion should help her parents realize what a serious man you are and what a good husband you will be to her.If you can’t get anywhere with her parents right now, you still need not end the relationship with her. You can postpone the question of marriage and just be her boyfriend.Your remaining faithful to her over the years, should dissolve any lingering objectons that her parents might have. Please let me know what happens.