I have been separated for 1 1/2 years. My husband was unemployed during our marriage of 2 1/2 years. He left his last job in Los Angeles and relocated to be with me (San Francisco where we got married. )He is now employed – a good paying job. He wants to live with me and start over. Before the separation he was fantasizing about another women who was a friend.We went to marriage counseling and the counselor described it as an emotional affair. I even caught my husband with this women out togther 1 week after our separation. He claims they are just friends.It’s been 1 1/2 years. The other women has been out of the picture for 1 1/4 years. He has been great to me. Now he wants to live together. My question is: Is this an abusive relationship if I decide to live with him again?I still love him. I come from a family who would never put up with this type of behavior, well educated – doctors. I want to make sure I am not making another mistake. So many friends I have claim that things will not change. My self-esteem was hurt more than his, more deeply, than his.My counselor says I should do what I want. (of course) But deep down inside I don’t think this is right. I’m just asking for an objective opinion.I have been seeing someone 10 months. Casually. He travels a lot, which helps since we were both hurt in past relationships. We both find it diffulcult to get involve. Yet we are still dear friends, and with time I believe we could become better friends.But I feel that the marriage is the priority. I’m trying to do the right thing! Please help shed light on this subject. I have seen a counselor but she is too unopinionated. Regards