My 50 year old boyfriend has been living apart from his wife for 5 years, with visits approx. once a month (maybe more) with no sexual contact. We met 6 months ago, and have a great relationship in every way.He agreed to get a divorce since he had been wanting to anyway. He told her about our relationship last month and stated he wanted a divorce. She panicked and has been trying to get him to change his mind. He is standing firm because he doesn’t want to lose me. He went down last week (she lives in CA, we live in OR) to see her.He said she is learning to cope with the impending divorce. He slept in the same bed with her (I asked him not to), but no sex occured. He said he has no desire to have sex with her, and has not for the last 5 years (she’s overweight). I don’t feel it’s right for him to share a bed with her under any circumstances.He said is was platonic (I really do believe him). He said he may have to visit her again in the future and she’s asked him to wait till after the first of the year to file the divorce.Am I being unreasonable? Should I let him get his divorce next year, or force the issue now? I don’t want to appear overbearing and inflexible. Help!