Hello – I just discovered completely by accident today while I was cleaning out the house that my wife has made a purchase in the multiple thousands of a designer purse. My wife never mentioned this but had hidden the purse away in a cabinet where I wouldn’t think to look for. We keep separate bank accounts but I’m not sure how to think of this. I think it’s the fact that the Chanel bag was hidden away that bothers me the most. Trying to understand how to talk to her about this and the right time since we just had a child.  Maybe I am over reading this but I don’t like feeling like the fact that she actually made the effort to hide the handbag indicates a lack of trust.  What should I do?

Dr Jamie Turndorf Answered question November 30, 2022