I am in college and have a job repairing electronics. Also employed there ( not to repair electronics) is quite possibly the most stunning woman that I’ve ever met. She seems like a really nice person, also.I often walk by her desk, and try talking to her, but any meaningful conversation is impeded by several factors.First, I am naturally shy with people I don’t know that well, especially women.Second, I think because of my job, I’m nearly sure she thinks I’m a techno-geek.Everyone I have ever gotten to know well, even women, really likes me. I know that if I could just get her talking I’d have a shot, but I ask her how she is doing, etc, and she gives me one word answers, and avoids eye contact. I’m not too unattractive, either (I guess).I hate to give up hope, but it just doesn’t look good. I know I’m so much more than she (and most people) see on the outside. Everyone I know tells me I’m really smart (ugh. . that ‘s often just a euphemism for ‘you can talk about nerdy things that aren’t interesting t o me.’)Anyway, I consider myself a nice guy, but I’m beginning to think that the only women that will ever be interested in me will be, forgive me, geeky girls. (Or worse yet, none at all!)It may be too late. . . she probably has the irrevocable notion that I’m an oddball. If first impressions are everything, I’m done for. I’d be willing to try anything. A smooth talker, I’m not, though. I’d trade brains and electronics for the ability to communicate with her anyday.Is there hope? Thanks, More than a nerd.
I give you credit for being so honest. It is hard for a guy to admit that he is batting out with a girl that he really likes. And this strength is going to help you out with this girl, because you are going to have to get your nerve up and take a chance.I am thinking that you have absolutely nothing to lose by going for broke. You aren’t getting her interest now, using the middle of the road approach, so WHAT do you risk by being a bit outlandish. The worst that happens is, you get nowhere, which is where you are now. So, why not go for it?Since you think that she believes you are a techno-nerd, why not use a bit of humor. That always gets attention. You might say, ‘I have been trying to make contact with you, but I think you have written me off as a techno-nerd.’ Then, you could smile, and say something funny like, ‘But beneath my techno-nerd exterior is a sensitive, passionate, romantic, shy guy who really wants to get to know you.’Or find other words that suit you better.Women throughout the ages have played hard to get. The reason: Women are looking for men who will be good and faithful providers. When a man shows, through his persistent interest, that he cares, a woman feels assured that he is the kind of man who will love her enough to go the distance with her. Your willingness to be persistent and risk yourself for her is your only hope.If it turns out that you are not her type, don’t give up so easily. Many women do fall in love with men who they didn’t think were their types. A man’s undying devotion and love is hard to resist.In the event that she refuses to date you, you can still be friends and see if more develops from that. Either way, your only chance for friendship or love is to go for broke.Please let me know how you make out.