Dear Dr. Love,please solve my problem. I am a 25 single female working in a large organization with both men and women. There is this women who treats me as her daughter but she is not my mother. I too love her and treat her as my mother. The problem is she has started kissing me on my lips. It is just a touch kiss but i feel something. I don’t know what to do?Yes, i love her and she loves me. She comes home and i go to her house. Is it by kissing me she is expressing her love towards me?She has a daughter and a granddaughter. She became a widow when she was in her teens. Her boyfriend is not here at the moment. Is she missing him and kissing me or what?She does all kind of things like pinching me on my thighs or bitting me on my finger etc. She loves me very much but i do not know as what. The whole office knows that i am her daughter. Is it normal for a 40 year old women kissing a 25 year old lady on her lips. Before it was just once in a month or two. But this month, it is everyday. I cannot say no to her becuase i too enjoy it and at times i feel that i wish i could just hold her and give her a french kiss.Please help me.Miss Confused
When you ask me if the other woman’s behavior is normal, I think you are asking me if your urges for this woman are normal. All humans are bisexual by nature. So, it’s no wonder that you enjoy her kiss and want to kiss her more. You are in touch with normal feelings that many people are too frightened to allow themselves to experience.At this point, you need to decide what you want to do about these feelings. Do you want to act on your desires and have an affair with this woman; or would you rather fantasize about sex with her, but not act on the desires?Only you can decide what is right for you. If you think that you would like to have an affair with this woman, make sure that you consider all the elements. What will happen to your friendship if the affair doesn’t work out? Is it safe to sleep with someone that you work with? Is she your boss? If you were to decide to end your affair, and she wanted to stay involved, could your job be in jeopardy? If one or both of you spoke about the affair to other co-workers, could your job be in jeopardy ( realize not everyone is as open as you are).So, explore all these questions, and talk with this woman about how you both feel. Good luck.