Dr. Love,I am a 23 year old heterosexual male and I have a problem with the shape of my penis. My penis is not straight, but curved downward and to the left. It is not a slight bend, It comes out about one inch and bends about 30 degrees downward, and then has a slight curve downward and to the left for the last 6 inches. The curve to the left is what bothers me more than anything. The leftward bend can be explained by saying that when I am looking down at it a vertical line can be drawn from the right side of the head to the left side of the base.This has caused me a great deal of problems in my life. I have had sex with only three girls in my life, and I have turned down many others because of this embarassing problem. One of the girls I had sex with I dated for 2 years, and had many talks with her about this problem. On many occasions she told me that there was nothing wrong with my penis, and that she could not tell that it was curved while we were having sex, and she went on to say that it did not interfere with her orgasms. I feel like she was just being nice.I have tried for the past eight years to staighten it out by bending it while I have an erection sometimes to the point it feels like its going to break. I even try to cary it on the right side of my pants but it allways finds its way back to the left side. When I masterbate I try to keep it bent in a straight line but it does not work.This is a very troubling problem for me and I do not know what to do about it. My self confedence is shot, and I have difficulty staying with girls when it looks like we are going to have sex because I am afraid they will see my penis! I would like to know how common this is, and is there anything I can do about it. I would also like to know how other women will preceive this in the future, and does it effect what they will feel while having sex.Please help me.
I hear how agonized you are, but don’t despair, there is help. There are two types of conditions that cause the penis to bend: one is called chordee and the other is Peyronies disease, and both can usually be corrected.First let’s determine which of the two conditions you have.Chordee is a severly curved penis, often accompanied by painful erections, due to a short urethra (the tube in the center of the penis which carries urine from the bladder to the outsie). Some males are born with a short urethra, and this causes the penis to bend during erection. Severe chordee is often diagnosed at birth. In less severe cases, the condition doesn’t become obvious until a young man’s penis grows during puberty. This condition can usually be surgically corrected.A different kind of problem which causes a curve in the erect penis is Peyronie’s disease. This condition appears in adulthood, after a man’s penis has been just fine for years. The symptoms of this condition are: a curve that appears in the erect penis, possible pain with erection, and a mass or hardened area on a section of the penis. Treatment for severe cases involve surgery to remove the plaque. In less severe cases, other treatments are used.It sounds to me like you have chordee. And, here’s what you need to do. First, you need to find a urologist who specializes in treating male sexual dysfunction.How to find such a specialist? You can ask your family physician. If you are too uncomfortable to do that, look in the Yellow Pages of your phone book under Physicians and Surgeons – Medical – M.D. to see if there are such specialists in your area. You can call the nearest medical school or large hospital and ask if there is such a specialist on staff or ask for the name of someone that they can refer you to. You can go to your library and look in the Marquis Directory of Medical Specialists. Or, you can call your county or state Medical Society and ask for telephone numbers of the type of specialist you are seeking.Second, in order to improve your self-confidence, I recommend that you talk with a counsellor who specializes in sexual dysfunction.As your previous girlfriend told you, the bend in your penis did not interfere with her pleasure. It is only interfering with yours! Because you feel like a freak, you are holding back with girls and missing out. The point is, when you can feel O.K. about yourself, others will accept you with all your unique bends and wrinkles.I am not saying that you need to accept this condition and do nothing about it. What I am saying is that while you take steps to correct it, you can learn to accept yourself as you are.We all have flaws in our souls and bodies. Some are more visible than others, but each of us is defective in one way or another. Any girl that likes you as a person will like all of you, including your bent penis. (In fact, many women find these bends add to their pleasure!) Your previous girlfriend already showed you that again and again that she enjoyed sex with you. And, she had no reason to lie about it.So, here’s the plan. Talk to a counsellor and rebuild your self-esteem. At the same time, see a urologist that specializes in male sexual dysfunction. Promise me that you will get back to me and let me know the results of your medical studies and let me know the treatment options suggested. I also want to hear how the sessions go with the therapist.