Hello,I stumbled upon your website while searching for an answer to my condition. I am a 25 year old man and a virgin. I have had brief affairs in the past but none of them led to any physical intimacy: I haven’t even kissed, to be exact. My primary problem is that I am afraid of having intercourse and am replused by even thinking about it. My fears stem, I believe, from my childhood experiences which were repulsive for me. When I was very young, may be when I was between 5 to 7 years old, I was the victim of forced incest by my own elder sister for a few years and they finally stopped when I was about 9 or 10. My sister has always been very sexually active since her childhood and she did not spare me when she found out an easy way to “get off” using my body. Naturally, in her company I became aware of all matters sexual even before the sexual molestations began.Her continued attacks made me hate the female anatomy and afraid of having intercourse. I found boys/men kinder as I knew I would not be sexually harrassed by them. This liking would not have mattered had I not become involved in a sexual liaison with another boy when I was around 12. Since then I have liked and lusted the male form though I haven’t been sexually active for the last 9 years. I never had any intercourse with him, of course, being too young. This lasted for four years after which our paths separated. I was 15 then.Its not that I am a misogynist. I like and admire good-looking girls but I do not feel any sexual tension while watching them. I guess, my homosexual experiences and lack of proper heterosexual experience is responsible for that. I am quickly approaching marriagable age and I am under severe stress and fear of failing to maintain a heterosexual relationship. I should add that my family is terribly conservative and no one knows I am gay or those unpleasant memories. Can I maintain a heterosexual relationship, become acclimatised to the female gender and derive pleasure from it? Being gay is not an option for me at all and I would like to have a family. Its just I can’t imagine having sex. I will probably not even get an erection. Should I try having sex with a prostitute first to become sure of myself? Please help. I cannot embarrass myself or my parents who are very good people.