I have a serious problem, I am a 41 year old mother/wife in a very loving realtionship. My only problem is that my husband has become very touchy lately, which I’m in love with, he is always touching and rubbing me pinching my butt putting his hands up my skirt, pulling on my thong straps, licking my cleavage, which is all great stuff. Except he does it in front of my son and his friends which embarasses my son.What should i do about my very loving hubby and my embarrased son.
You are in touchy spot! A horny hubby and a bashful boy is an explosive combination. You don’t want to deflate your husband, but to allow him to continue is to torment your boy.You need to tell your husband that you love the way he touches you and that you feel very lucky that he can’t keep his hands off of you; then put your foot down and tell him that, for the sake of your son, he must not touch you in a sexual way in the presence of your son.To help your husband to understand the damage that he’s doing, he needs to learn a bit about the Oedipal Crisis, which is a normal phase in a boy’s psychological development. Tell him that if a boy is traumatized during this phase, his sexuality can be destroyed for life. That should get your husband ‘s attention!Then give your hubby a crash course on the Oedipal Crisis. Tell him that it is normal for all boys to feel sexual attraction for their mothers. These feelings lead the boy to fantasize about killing his father so that he can have the mother for himself. If all goes well, the boy comes to accept that the mother can never be his and so he decides to become a man like his father so that he can marry a girl just like mom.You can see how your husband ‘s sexually provocative advances could really damage your son. For one thing, such sexually overt behavior could easily over stimulate your son’s sexual urges toward you. This could lead to all kinds of guilt and confusion; plus, it could arouse extremely aggressive urges toward his dad.The bottom line–if I may say–is that your son doesn’t need to have this normal struggle made even harder for him. I hope that your husband sees the light and fast.