Hi Dr. LoveI don’t know how to start this off but here it goes. I have been married for 6 years but been with my husband for going on 10 years since the age of 15.For the past few months my husband has tried his best to aviod me in the bed room. and he couldnt even get an erection the last time we tried to make love. He told me that he thinks he has something wrong with him and said he would look into going to the doctor.But for the last 2 months I have noticed that the bottle of vasaline has gone down very fast and started to think he was taking care of his needs with out me. I have talked to him about what was wrong and why he didnt want to make love to me anymore and he said it is nothing I have done that he just doesnt have a sex drive any more but last night when I came home from work a little sooner than normal I caught him in the bath room masterbating.Now he doesnt know I know what he was doin, but I don’t understand why he would pick masterbating over making love. I didn’t talk to him about the Vaseline or about me catching him in the bathroom. But I want to let him know how hurt I am that he would pick masturbation over making love to me.He knows I am very upset about our sex life. I feel as if there is something I am doing wrong. I am so hurt that I have decided that I don’t want to make love to him for a very long time. I feel as if the only reason he would want to make love anyways is just so I can say that he is pleasing me sexually. Please if you think you might know a way to help me out, I would much appreciate it.Thank you, Loveless