Dear Dr. Love:About 18 months ago I began a relationship with a woman that has turned out to be the best relationship I’ve ever had. This woman is as close to my idea of a perfect life companion as I can imagine, and I dearly, truly love her with all my heart.Recently though, things haven’t been going so well. Before we got together I had few activities I did and friends that I saw on a regular basis. There were lots of things I wanted to do, but with nobody to share them with, and finances on the low side, I was reluctant to try.Since we have been together I have become involved in a lot of her activities as well as developed some on my own, and my financial situation has improved dramatically. Because of this, we see each other about 4 or 5 days a week. A lot of this time is spent ‘doing ‘whatever we get together to do, and there is very little quiet time where we can just talk and enjoy each other ‘s company.Along with this, I have been trying very hard (perhaps too hard) to try and please her. I usually defer to her interests, not because I want to please her, but because they usually are in line with my interests as well. She sees this as a submissive role on my part, and has said that, in a way, we have switched gender roles – i. e. she’s taking the masculine side while I ‘m taking the feminine side. I see it as an attempt to show her that our interests are similar, and that it’s more important for me to spend time with her than to ‘do’things together.The problem is, she says she needs more time to herself, that I seem to be moving too much into her life, and I need to be more assertive when it comes to her. I say, after 18 months together, we should be getting closer, not taking backward steps, and if I act too assertive I ‘m afraid that she ‘ll think I ‘m trying to dominate her. What can I do to fix this? I don’t want to lose the best woman that ‘s ever come into my life.Signed, In Love But Worried.