My husband and I have been married for 26 years and he just told me in May that he had an affair with a women…..he said it happened 20 years ago …but from his touch and a new thing he does in bed when we are making love I think she was a recent affair.Anyway I am having trouble coping with all of this and he says for me to just let it go , it was 20 years ago….I would like too but I am finding it harder and harder to let go…I feel so betrayed and why did he not tell me about her way back then why wait til now.I really need advise on what to do. Please tell me what you then do you think it was 20 years ago or was it just recent ? And how do I deal with all of this ?