Dear Dr. Love:I am a 25 year old woman. I have had several boyfriends but never could bring myself to make love with any of them. About five years ago, I had my first sexual experience when I was raped by a middle-aged man–my boss. It was so painful. Now, whenever a boyfriend tries to do it, I remember the pain and refuse him. I am so afraid of the pain that I can’t even insert my finger or a tampon.One doctor told me that pain was a mental thing and that I would probably never be able to have sex in my life and that I should put sex out of my mind. Another doctor said lots of people can’t do it because of pain and she gave me tranquilizers to take before trying to have sex. Which of these doctors is right?