Dear Dr. Love,Please give me insight. My boyfriend of almost 1 1/2 years treats me like a queen. No one’s ever loved me so deeply. However, I’ve been attracted to other men and lately I’ve been dreamy about one particular man… I’m at a point where I fantacize about him. I’m never going to cheat on my boyfriend, but I don’t know what I feel for him.My boyfriend has noticed that I’m a little spacey these days and has confronted me about it. So, I explained that although I love him, I feel bothered that I’m attracted to other men. I don’t know if it was insensitive of me to tell him that… I even told him who it was I’ve felt drawn to. I’ve broken up with him twice before, but in both occassions, we’ve somehow stayed together. He makes conscious efforts to change what bothers me… I’m kind of baffled as to why I try to break up, but don’t ever follow through. By the end of the conversation, we’re still together.During the last’break-up’ conversation, which was about 3 months ago, he started begging that I stay. Eventually, I gave in only if we were more candid with each other, instead of censoring our feelings all the time (an example would be not telling the other person what you want, just in case that person wanted it, so that the other person could have it). It was wonderful again–but only for awhile.I don’t know when it’s time to let go of the relationship. I don’t think I’ll ever meet someone as loving as he. He makes me feel so good, and I think I make him feel good too.Perhaps what bothers me is his physical appearance (he almost looks dwarfed with short arms and legs), and sometimes he really annoys me. In many occasions he would make jokes that I wouldn’t find funny at all. I also feel that we spend too much time together.I don’t know if this has bearing on the circumstance, but we have a nine year age difference, I’mand he’s 29; he is my first long-term relationship; and I lost my virginity to him. Also, he just broke up with an alcoholic fiance (they dated for 7 years) prior to meeting me. He and his ex had only been apart for 3 months before our first date. Also, he asked me to marry him after only 4 months of dating. It scared the heck out of me. (We eventually decided not to bring it up again until I’m out of college.)I truly would appreciate your expertise. I don’t know what I’m doing anymore. Please, please respond.Sincerely,XXX