Dear Dr Love:I do hope that you will answer to my e-mail as i have been struggling with this relationship problem of mine for almost a year. I have sought the help of professionals, people like therapistis and counsellors but to no avail. Most of them do not really seem to understand what i am trying to say / express and offer fixed methods of advice.I have a boyfriend of 2 years who have been rather abusive both verbally and emotionally. He would flare up at the smallest things and hurl vulgarities at me. As a result, i often doubt whether he really loves me or not. This prompted me to ask him whether if he really loves me after every quarrel. and his reply ? more verbal abuse!I have tried calming him down by talking to him nicely, by leaving him alone for a short period of time and by bringing him to see counsellors, but all these do not seem to help.In the meantime, i am feeling rather depressed, hurt and angry with myself for loving a guy who constantly brings me out for a ‘ rollercoaster’ ride : that is, his way of care or being nice is only dependent upon his mood.I can’t seem to trust him now. His work comes into frequent contact with attractive females and furthermore, he has above average looks with a’charming personality’ in public.I am really breaking apart as i feel the inner tourment within myself whenever i see him, loving him yet not quite loving him.PLEASE ADVISE and your help is very much appreciated.