Dear Dr. Love,I have a problem, I am a 24 year old hetrosexual male and I am have been in a stable relationship for two years. My problem is this; my fiancee is very good at giving me oral sex, but the problem is that I can not acheive an orgasm from oral sex. Now my fiancee is the first one to expose me to the plesure of oral sex so I don’t have much experince in the area. So I was wondering if I have a problem or is she just not doing it correctly. I would really love to have an orgasm this way because it would mean a lot not only to myself but also to her. Since we’ve been together it has become a very sore subject among us and she has been doing it less and less frequently. Yet she has told me that giving oral sex is one of her biggest turn-ons. So I was wondering if you might be able to give me some helpful advise in order to resolve this issue. Please help me.Thank you,It’s a no go.
It sounds to me like oral sex has become the bone (or should I say boner) of contention in this relationship. Your girlfriend has some stake in proving that she is a champion head-giver (to boost her ego?) and is pissed that you aren’t coming. Feeling pressured to get-off is a sure way to prevent a man’s orgasm. You two people have completely forgotten what sex is supposed to be about: giving and receiving love. Your girlfriend needs to understand that the more she pressures your poor penis, the more it will revolt.She must give you oral sex with no goal in mind except to heighten your connection to each other by providing you with wonderful sensations. If she is able to drop the scorekeeping, you will come, guaranteed. How do I know? You are able to come through other forms of stimulation, so we know the plumbing works. So, chill enjoy, put no demands on yourself. . . and you’ll be buying rubber sheets before you know it.